Fabienne Jennes - self-employed - mother of four
Communication between me and my spouse has improved.
NVC has taught me to express my feelings and focus on what is essential.
As I know myself better, it is easier for me to be known by my husband and children.
By taking better care of myself, I can take better care of my family.
The practice of NVC is mainly a question of awareness, of lucidity, requiring much perseverance to achieve day to day. Far from claiming that, I believe that NVC offers a framework, a method, to gain awareness of the moods we have and whose effects we suffer without truly understanding the causes.
Martin (19 years)
I sincerely believe that the strength of NVC lies in this consciousness which gives us the potential to assume our responsibilities: initially in regard to self, one's expectations and desires and then in regards to others in the event of the conflicts inherent in group life.
Bérénice (21 years)
NVC more than anything else has given me more clarity and objectivity in regard to my inner experiences. When I find the right words to express exactly what is bothering me, I save precious energy. In respect to my relations with others, I first of all attempt to avoid being judgmental. I use NVC with people "in the know" or with friends in difficulty. I help them to find the words expressing accurately what they are feeling. When one is persevering and takes the time, NVC is a most useful process but I am far from using it naturally.
Delphine (22 years)
Since attending a workshop, I have little by little acquired reflexes. First of all, concerning myself: I understand myself better. I now know why i am feeling such or such another emotion, what is touched in me ; I am no longer just the emotion. And then concerning others: my interlocutors understands me better when I use the right words, and I understand them better when I listen to them. This is work to be done in every discussion, at every moment, and often it would be easier not to do it. But then watch out for the damage!
Colombe (14 years)
At home, the whole family tries to use Nonviolent Communication. Personally, I haven't yet had any training. We often try to practise NVC, wether during a fight, a difficult instant or an important choice to be made. It is not always easy to understand what other people really mean, what they are feeling, and that, I think, is one of the main causes of dissension. When I understand better what is going on in myself, I feel better and my mood changes.