Consulting us for what?
"My child doesn't want to go to bed"
"My husband always come home from work so late"
"I've lost someone so close to me ... Life is just meaningless now"
"I'm at the end of my tether and I'm really on edge"
"I so much want to stop drinking, eating, smoking or taking drugs compulsively"
Generally speaking, people looking for help are in pain, and sometimes have been so for a long time.
Nonviolent Communication is an excellent process for working through confusion, conflict, or merely suffering. Through the practice of this process, people return to the path of their deep aspirations; to what is really crucial for them. Their creativity, stifled under the density of the pain they experienced, comes to the surface and reveals solutions until then either invisible or seemingly inaccessible. Nonviolent Communication makes decisions easier to reach. It helps us better to perceive our needs, to separate core needs from secondary needs and to establish our priorities.
Whatever be a person's problem, it is important for them to be able to invest time and energy in finding a solution. There are highly spectacular situations such as people who have fallen victim to serious violence or who themselves have been very violent.
More particularly, NVC provides invaluable support in cases where people are in situations which plunge them into confusion.
Nonviolent Communication has also proved to be a very powerful conflict-management tool. The conflict may be between members of a family (brothers and sisters, parents and children, etc.), employer and employee, manager and subordinate, the young and the less young, partners, neighbours, ... But also between clans, social strata and even broader communities, e.g. Israelis and Palestinians, Americans and Irakis, Chinese and Tibetans, etc.
Conflicts may also arise out of health problems. One may experience conflict with oneself in the shape of disagreement between two aspects of self. A conflict with self may lead to ignoring self. Nonviolent Communication will bring a person back to the path of their essential needs, making it possible for them to reconnect with their true values.
This process enables us to depart from society's binary system: this is right and that is wrong.